Frequently Asked Questions

Answers to your questions

Questions & Answers

We tried to provide answers to most of your questions, Let us know if you have more questions in your mind, we will try to give an answer to your question

I can’t get to an In-person group, should I try a Zoom group?

GROW recommends attending an In-person group for attaining the most benefit from GROW’s support network. However, we know that’s not always possible, which is why GROW Zoom groups were developed and can be attended from anywhere in the world via the internet.

Some examples of people who would benefit from a Zoom group are:

  • The In-person groups are not close geographically to where they live or work.
  • A stay at home mum with children to care for.
  • Employment or other activities conflict with In-person group times.
  • Having no car or access to convenient public transport.
  • Being disabled or other health reasons preventing access
  • Wanting to avoid peak hour travel in traffic
  • Feeling unsafe travelling at night
  • Cannot afford or want to reduce transport time or costs

Some instances where an In-person member may want to use a Zoom group temporarily are:

  • Away on holiday and want to keep in regular contact with a group
  • Sick or unwell and not wanting to spread germs or viruses.

Contact us now and ask for a list of both In-person and Zoom groups.

Where is GROW located in New Zealand?

GROW can be accessed by everyone in New Zealand, and Internationally. The NZ In-person groups are specifically located in Auckland, Hamilton, Thames, Nelson, Kaiapoi north of Christchurch and Dunedin. To locate your nearest group contact us by clicking here and we will send you a group venue meeting list. GROW is not located in every city or town so if there is no GROW group conveniently close to your location, please consider accessing GROW via Zoom and the internet. You will need generous amounts of data from either Wifi or your phone plan. Note that in recent weeks internet providers are offering endless phone data for as little as $40 per month – both casual plans and prepay, which is sufficient to attend Zoom groups every week.

What is the social side of GROW like?

Unlike the GROW weekly meetings, which are quite structured and purposeful in format, the GROW socials are much more free and relaxed to encourage and develop ongoing friendships to compliment the weekly meetings.

Some social events involve meeting together with members of your own group while other larger meetings are regularly organised with members of combined groups.

Is GROW Religious?

GROW, being a 12 step program, does typically have some prayers and references to God in its delivery. However, GROW does not discriminate – both religious and non-faith believing people are welcome to attend GROW. Probably half of all current members do not practice any faith-based religion. There are alternative non-religious recitation options for groups to use and it is up to the leader of the group on the day which one they use.

As an alternative explanation, members are encouraged to live life up to their highest values or their own beliefs. GROW is spiritual, as it recognizes the inherent worth of persons and the need we all have to trust ourselves, namely to have soundly based self-confidence.

GROW sees that confidence is the ability to trust others in keeping with the positive, transcendent force in life that for many is God.

GROW does not have any affiliation with any particular church or denomination.

Is there a finite term of membership?

No. The membership term is open-ended and you are welcome to remain a lifetime member irrespective of your recovery – provided you are receiving comfort and aiding others. Long-term members who stay active in GROW are often referred to as ‘Seasoned Growers’.

How can I observe a meeting?

Anyone from the public is invited to attend and observe two or three meetings for a start to see how GROW operates. Once you are satisfied GROW can help, you become a member by attending meetings every week or as often as possible for personal benefit. By regular attendance, you are not only receiving help for yourself but you are benefiting others in the group by just being there and offering mutual help and peer support.

Note: If you are there to observe with no need of help for yourself or you do not want to become a mental health volunteer, then just let someone know you are attending as a “Community Observer”.

What are GROW meetings like?

GROW groups vary in size and average of 5 to 9 people. Meetings are held weekly, day or night, lasting two hours and are followed by refreshments.

Meetings follow a regular format, which usually begins with a quiet reflective moment followed by a group recited karakia or prayer. They combine personal testimonies, reports on progress, group work on members’ problems and adult education about rebuilding lives. Friendships are formed with the common goal to get well and stay well and it is ordinary between meetings to keep in touch through sociable phone calls or visits.

What does GROW mean by “inadequate or maladjusted?

Inadequate means you lack the resources to meet a personal task on your own, which is quite often the case when you first join GROW. Most people inquire about GROW to find their focus in life and to get stability and control. Admitting you need some help or personal adjustment to address a problem, whether it be large or small, is the first step in the program.

Can I become a volunteer for GROW? – I want to help people

Yes, you can. GROW is about being a community of people and forming friendships with the goal of achieving and preserving good mental health. Volunteers can become members too and play a vital role in assisting others. As a volunteer, you can contribute by being supportive in an enabling way and guide fellow members into achieving greater mental strength and emotional maturity. GROW is about prevention from mental illness as well as a cure. Please read the ways you can volunteer and apply by clicking here. A group venue list will be sent to you.

If I join GROW, will I need to buy any books?

There have been many books, topical readings, and testimonies written by members and seasoned leaders to GROW over the years that can be made readily available to you. All are written to help you understand and come to terms with a variety of mental or emotional conditions – their prevention and improvement.

The one essential book you should consider buying as soon as possible is “The Program of Growth to Maturity“, which is affectionately known by members as the “Blue Book”. The cost is $5 and is frequently referred to in a group.

You will initially be lent a Blue Book to use while attending a group until you are ready to buy. This book contains condensed forms of GROW program learning’s, from which, most other GROW material is written concerning its content.

Other books can be acquired over time as you progress in GROW and can be purchased over the website or from within the group.

How is GROW membership anonymous

In GROW we respect the privacy of individuals to ensure their safety and to gain the confidence of all members of the group. Whatever is shared in a group generally stays within the group – we ask that all members respect this rule. Members need only be known by their first name if they wish.

When is right time for me to join GROW?

The right time is now. Don’t delay! – Your mental health is far too important and getting help early is vital. Most people come to GROW in a broken state but after a short period of growth it becomes hard to recognise the same person they once were upon joining and the change is more than they could have imagined. A GROW support group will first validate you, improve your confidence, and then help you learn to trust yourself and others. Enquire Now

Can I do it alone – why do I need a GROW group?

GROW members know from experience that it can be too overwhelming to make changes or adjustments to your life habits on your own.

Instead, you will receive the friendly help of your group peers who have been where you have been, who have been shown how to apply the program to their own lives and are now wanting to show you how you can experience the same success.

It’s a journey where you are learning to take back a bit more control week by week and experience happiness again. GROW can help no matter how small or large you imagine your condition to be.

Who can be a GROWER?

Anyone who is willing to help and be helped. Participation in GROW is strictly voluntary.No referrals or proof of medical history is necessary.

GROW is open to all human beings – irrespective to belief, race, colour or class.

Many members come to GROW with a history of hospitalisation but probably half come initially because they need help due to some life crises – a death in the family, divorce or a change in career.

What does GROW cost?

There is no fees or dues to attend a GROW group meeting. However, if you feel to give a donation towards the group’s expenses that would be appreciated but there is no obligation.

A donation box is made available within the group setting so that donations can be made anonymously. If you require a donation receipt please speak to the group Treasurer before donating. In return for donations, GROW invites you to receive ‘tax credits’ (for more info see our ‘Donate’ page).

Who runs GROW?

GROW New Zealand belongs to an international mental health movement, which began in Australia. In NZ its National Office is run by seasoned GROW volunteers that form an Incorporated Society that is registered with the NZ Charities Commission.

The individual GROW groups are unincorporated societies, self-governing, operate their own bank accounts and apply for grants to cover administration and program expenses. They operate according to the National organisation’s program rules and objectives.

GROW is volunteer run. We do not employ counsellors or psychotherapists although we work in collaboration with all medical professions and often receive referrals from them.

GROW operates on a mutual help principle. This means you can receive help and instruction, and you can also offer comfort and counsel, balanced by compassion and understandings from GROW’s program and guidebook on healthy living.

Do all GROW groups operate the same?

Yes. All GROW support groups follow a recognisable and structured meeting agenda called the “group method”. A copy of the group method is printed on a card and distributed to all present at the beginning of every meeting. The meeting usually lasts about 1.5 – 2 hours and is usually overseen by an approved trained Organiser. One of the reasons for having such a meeting structure is that a relatively new member can soon learn to chair or lead a meeting by following the group method. Leading a meeting will often fast track a members self-development – for gaining confidence, leadership skills and emotional maturity.

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